Friday, December 5, 2008

Well Since You Asked...

After simultaneously texting and emailing for a few ridiculous minutes, I just spent an hour on the phone with Match Guy.

And while an hour telephone conversation--particularly with a near stranger--is generally unheard of, the jury is currently out.

First off, it was an hour of what was essentially goofy banter about nothing in general; and while I am certainly a fan of banter, I am also a fan of conversations where actual information and ideas are exchanged. He's silly and made me laugh (and occassionally squirm when an attempted joke did not land), but also appears to have the attention span of a moth and I'm not convinced he's capable of carrying on an actual, serious conversation.

Second, he won't man up and actually ask me out. He's hinted, and kept trying to convince me to come up to Morningside Heights at 12:05am after he finished writing a paper that's due at midnight, but wouldn't just say "Hey, want to get a drink on _______?"

Don't get me wrong, I am in no way writing him off after one phone conversation. Like I said, it's rare indeed for me to spend that much time on the phone with anyone. Just that... I'm trying to dissuade myself from my usual cycle where I get all excited about something that turns out to be nothing at all.

I don't know if I've ever mentioned Mr. Perfect On Paper. I met him online, through something free and utterly shameful (Craigslist, I think). We emailed, had some rather scandalous IM sessions, and talked on the phone for several hours.

Then we met, and... nothing. No chemistry, no spark, nein, nyet, nada. Talk about a let down.

And don't even get me started on Rodent Man.

So, in general, online dating has a tendency to build my hopes only to dash them all to pieces, so I'm trying to keep things in perspective.

I'm also trying to stop myself from being exceedingly picky, like I often can be. I'll wait until I meet him in person before I make any judgment calls. If he ever actually asks me out.*

I hope he does. He's awfully cute.

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* Yes, yes, I am fully aware that this is the 21st Century and I could just ask him out myself, but if there's one thing experience has taught me it's that when I do all the pursuing and planning, things end as soon as I stop. I need a man who is capable of taking the initiative and demonstrating that he actually wants to see me. I don't think that's asking too much...

3 comments:

Deutlich said...

HAHAHA. you're such a nitpicker

sequined said...

I think it's reasonable to want him to make the move. If he seems like he lacks initiative, that's something to find out early!

Hope said...

I fully agree with you. He should ask you out! Also, I don't think you're being picky. I think you're incredibly aware of what you want from a man.

That's good